“I will NOT be subjected to this abuse anymore!” …said the abuser. What?
Who says that? Narcissists say that during a heated argument they started. Of course, they follow up the argument by saying, “I don’t want to argue with you,” while they are arguing.
The shock of this abuse statement can rock the target aka victim’s world. It is yet one more complete stab through the heart and knife in the back. Is there any room left to plunge another knife so deeply? If there is, the Narc will find it.
How can they now invalidate the roles of the abuser and the target and so vehemently flip the script as if it was a script- a Hollywood script and they are the star player in their own reality Sh&t Show. This is a form of gaslighting; it is a hardcore attempt to throw the victim into complete confusion and make them begin to doubt themselves as if they are the actual abuser.
Perhaps they were wrong and may need to apologize to the narcissist for the narcissist harming them physically, verbally, emotionally, sexually, financially, spiritually, stealing from them, lying to them, cheating on them, using them, degrading them, belittling them, and ghosting them. Yes, perhaps it was their fault, and the narcissist really is the victim. Bullcrap. Don’t fall for it. Give them an academy award for their performance, then give them the boot!
If you find yourself in a narcissistic relationship, it is really a dictatorship and more like a slave/master relationship. When the Narc begins to pick fights with you and then suddenly flips the switch on you and whines that they are the abused and they are not going to take it anymore, and that they are going to file for divorce and not going to be the ATM anymore, and how could you, the victim, be so cruel to them, (to discover and call them out on their lies and cheating), this is a huge sign that they know you know about their shenanigans and they are aware their time to manipulate and use you is coming to a quick end.
And just like a Tesla about to run out of battery juice or a high-maintenance orchid running out of water and oxygen, and it begins to wither, the Narc becomes desperate to hang on to their best and most productive supply: you, the target. They wither and die on the vine without good supply. Anyone who is semi-educated on narcissism knows this and needs to be aware of the signs of these shocking acts of betrayal during all phases of the dictatorship.
If you are a target and reading this and may be unaware of all the different types of narcissistic abuse, you can research these and gain more clarity as you are being attacked either covertly or overtly. The types of narcissistic abuse are identical to domestic violence, go figure! They are: physical, verbal, emotional, financial, sexual, spiritual. Some very influential and insightful YouTube experts on this particular subject are: Dr. Carmen Bryant, Helen Saddler, Richard Grannon, RC Blake and NarcDaily with Andrew.
The target is never the abuser. Think about it; how can a target shoot arrows at itself? The abuser is the one aiming viciously and shooting those deadly arrows. Get out, do not respond and do not be fooled.